Man-Baby Screams At Girlfriend For Sneaking Vegetables Into His Meals

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Emmy Pratt • Senior Editor
Apr 15, 2023 6:00 PM EDT

If there's one thing I can't stand, it's adults who don't eat their vegetables. I know that a lot of people have sensory issues or eating disorders, and those aren't the people I'm talking about. I'm talking about grown men and women who can't eat four pieces of broccoli with their meal because they're too darn stubborn. My hatred for this type of person developed when I was working at a restaurant in high school. I can't even count the number of times adults would order their chain-restaurant Chinese food with "no veggies." It got to the point that the cooks would assume that all meals were being ordered with no veggies. I couldn't believe adults would be so immature and make such poor choices in front of their children. I'm not a health nut by any means, but I know that the least you can do for yourself is eat your vegetables, and unfortunately, not everybody agrees. One Redditor who tried to help her boyfriend eat better figured that out all too well. 

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    Font - r/AmltheAsshole u/throwaway3546364738 - 1d AITA for hiding vegetables in my boyfriend's food?
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    Organism - throwaway bc he spends a lot of time on reddit. this is the most ridiculous argument i've had with a grown man. I (28f) have been with my boyfriend (36f) for a year and we moved in together about 4 months ago.
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    Font - One of the first things I noticed about my boyfriend was that he never really ate vegetables. He would sometimes eat them if we were out at a restaurant and they came as part of his meal. But he never ate them when I cooked for him. Originally I thought that maybe my cooking was the problem so I asked him if he enjoyed my food and he told me he loves my cooking. On nights I didn't cook for him, he ate exclusively frozen foods and never ate the vegetables in those either. Naturally, he has
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    Font - 6 months ago I started hiding vegetables in my cooking. If I was making pasta I'd put the vegetables in I'd usually put in for myself, then take half out and blend it so he wouldn't notice the vegetable chunks and then tell him I'd just scooped the veg out of his portion. This happens more often now we live together because I do all of the cooking. He's been telling me a lot lately he's been feeling a lot better the past few months and has even had his doctor reduce the dosage of some of
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    Font - Yesterday, I was making one of our regular pasta meals (it's one that's very easy to hide at least 4 veggies in) and i was about to blend my boyfriend's portion when the blender died mid- blend. I had to serve it in all its veg chunk glory. My boyfriend refused to eat the vegetables but when he tasted the sauce he said it's weird how it tastes the exact same even though this one has veg in it. So, I confessed. He screamed at me and called me a controlling bitch and said that it's none of
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    Rectangle - Available_Ask_8725. 1d Partassipant [1] 1 Award NTA. This is a grown man 8 years older than you. If he has a problem with your cooking, let him make his own food. He's already coddled by his sister and doesn't/shouldn't need to be by you. 32.4k
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    Font - Professional Bus861. 1d 2 Awards Sorry but he should rightfully go on the reject pile for OP and every other woman. A man who cannot be an adult for himself and eat things that do him good is a self- sabotaging and HER-SABOTAGING asshole unfit for partnership.
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    Font - I don't know why some people act like self- harm is some sort of virtue. It is not. It is stupidity and stubbornness in all of its glory and this was but one symptom of a much bigger problem.
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    Font - He is unable to adapt and evolve as a human, he is unable to adult himself and learn new things. He is unable to take responsibility for his own health or his own cooking. He ate junk and thinks that is somehow as it should be. Anyone dating such a person should save themselves years of heartbreak and move on. 412.5k
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    Font - MrKarotti. 1d This. And given that he apparently didn't mind the veggies when he didn't notice them, it's pretty clear that it's not even taste or texture he has a problem with. If it was, he could just say "oh yeah? well, it tasted fine, so please keep blending veggies for me". But he insists on not eating them at all for no apparent reason. ... 5.2k
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    Font - TalaHusky. 1d Honestly, if someone were to do this to me, I'd be delighted about this. I have a super strong aversion to both taste and texture of most fruits and vegetables. I know it has to be a mental thing, but I simply cannot force myself to eat them as I will get sick (IE vomiting). That said, I can and have eaten things with veggies in them because they don't taste or feel like the vegetable in question. OP's boyfriend should be absolutely worshipping her for being able to do this,
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    Font - Proud_Yogurtcloset58. 1d Asshole Enthusiast [7] But he insists on not eating them at all for no apparent reason. I know a full grown adult that is determined that vegetables make him nauseous. He is so unhealthy he is grey. 4819 819
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    Font - TrashMord. 1d No. You are NTA in anyway, and I don't care what anyone says. I admittedly was the same way, till my girlfriend kinda got me to start. I've felt much better afterwards and just. Yea. Minus squash. I will straight up fight someone over having to eat that nasty hell food lol If he's gonna be a cry baby about it, he can cook his food and you can cook yours. That way he can "control what he's putting in his body" as another comment said ... 9k
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    Font - cheerful_cynic. 1d Spaghetti squash actually can be delicious with a real spaghetti sauce just like OP describes, with meat or mushrooms, but it's gotta be roasted plenty. 1.5k
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    Font - TrashMord. 1d ...see. that's not fair lol. Cause I love noodles with a passion. You can't be using that love to try and make me eat that .. 41.1k 1.1k
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    Font - TheEndisFancy • 1d I hate coffee and beer. Many, many people have insisted I needed to try their beer or coffee because it tastes like apple/ chocolate/babies' souls/vanilla ice cream/ etc. Those people were lying liars who lied. That shit still tasted like coffee and beer. I also don't like any squash except very lightly grilled yellow and even then I will only like it 40% of the time. There is significant overlap in the beer/coffee/ spaghetti squash crowd. Proceed with caution. 41.3k
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    Font - Thyumos. 1d Professor Emeritass [73] 1 Award I have to disagree with everyone here, NTA. If you have to sneak in vegetables because he has an abject objection to adhering to his body's requirements to be healthy, then it's because there is something wrong with him and hs needs dragged to a doctor to address his purposeful malnutrition and a therapist to address why he insists on what is basically self-harm out of negligence.
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    Font - Your feeding him food that he requires to be healthy literally improved his wellbeing. So clearly he's fine with vegetables as long as he doesn't know that his body's needs are being fullfilled. You didn't feed his poison. You fed him real food. He's wrong for eating wrong, he's wrong for neglecting his needs, he's wrong for basically being upset that his improved quality of life was the result of him being fed vegetables that he would outright choose not to eat if he saw them.
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    Font - and said that it's none of my business if he thinks vegetables don't do anything. He's wrong for literally harboring incorrect beliefs. I pointed out he said he felt better. He said his health was none of my business Better remember this when he finally wants any kind of health-related help. Health is always a partner's business. He's literally mad that you care about him, let that sink in.
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    Font - And unless you literally tied him to a chair and forced food down his throat, you didn't control him. Decieve him? Sure. But you didn't control him. But unless he's asking for a bullet point list of every item is in a given plate of food, he willingly ate food that he didn't even ask what's in it, so it's not really deception either. And given that it's healthy food, he's no better than a toddler demanding chicken nuggets for dinner. Him being a toddler about it makes you his mommy girlfr
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    Font - He is being a toddler, that should have been corrected decades ago. If you are an AH for anything, it's for being with a toddler. An adult who won't willingly eat vegetables unless his gf plays mommy to get him to stop being purposely malnourished is not at all mature enough to have relationships. Please, dump the toddler and find a man, do you really want to baby him for the rest of his life? 4.6k
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    Font - Ok-Asparagus-4809. 1d Partassipant [1] If he thinks vegetables don't do anything then why is he so against them being incorporated in his meals??? 42k
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    Font - oakbones. 1d Partassipant [1] because he thinks vegetables are icky, no doubt. but he can't admit that because he's almost 40 years old and eats like a 6 year old. 4903
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    Font - tiger_lily784762 • 1d Jumping on this comment to stress the last line: as he gets older and more unhealthy YOU will be burdened with taking care of him. It sucks the life out of you when a grown man acts like a toddler about their health. He will become more stubborn and double down on the tantrums when you are simply trying to care about him living or dying. NTA but RUN!!! 612
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    Rectangle - Talkinginmy_sleep. 1d NTA. What kind of grown man doesn't eat vegetables? bf. I'm sure his poop sucks. Get a new ... 3.2k
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    Font - CorvusStrix. 1d Also his sweat. I don't want to know what he smells like.. ... 999
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    Font - c-o-n-s-t-a-n-c-e • 1d The things women will do for men who literally just don't care is just embarrassing at some points. As a member of the species, STOP. He's not a dog that needs his tick antibiotics rolled up a dozen layers of swiss cheese coated in peanut butter. You're literally battling a grown man and leading a whole ass double life to get him to eat his vegetables. Please, do yourself a favor and find a guy that can handle a little broccoli once a week. ... 41.4K 1.4k
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    Font - NTA. XarrisTheBard. 1d There's an argument to be had about why lying to him about what you're putting in his food is bad, but it's not like you're doing it out of some weird perceptions about health. Eat your damn vegetables. Also, please give me some of these recipes, I don't eat nearly enough vegetables either Imfao 552
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    Font - Pleasant-Chemist-843 • 1d . INFO: did he explicitly ask you not to add vegetables into his food? If not then it's just really strange behaviour from him. Why on earth does it matter that you were cooking with certain ingredients, which happened to be healthy, if he hadn't even noticed? Even more so when vegetables are completely normal things to use in the type of cooking you described. ... 210
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    Font - throwaway3546364738 OP. 1d No, he didn't. When we talked about it he said he really doesn't like vegetables but he didn't ask me to not add vegetables. ... 500
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